You know the quote, “Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future?” It refers to the basic principle that we become like the people we most spend time with.
Nowadays the people I most spend time with are a four year old and a 10 month old. And one of the things kids do best is WHINE. Seriously…just do a Google search of “Why my kid is crying” and you’ll see all the ridiculous things kids find to whine about.
So because that’s what I listen to all day, I’ve become prone to the same whining and complaining. But I don’t think it’s just me. Our whole society seems to have an addiction to complaining. The president, the weather, traffic, our jobs, our TV shows…somehow people will always find a way to complain about something.
Well, I’m taking a stand and saying enough is enough. Because complaining just makes us and everyone around us miserable. Nothing sucks the joy out of a room faster than a whiner.
So how do we break the complaining addiction?
I call it the grieve, BUT principle.
It’s okay to be honest and tell people how you’re really feeling. But don’t end it with a complaint. End it with something you can be thankful for.
“Traffic was really bad this morning, BUT I’m thankful I have a car that works!”
“I had a hard day at work, BUT I’m thankful to have a steady income!”
“I wish I didn’t have a ton of laundry to do, BUT I’m thankful for my crazy kids who love to have messy adventures!”
See? By changing our perspective, we can change our attitude. Instead of having a venting session about all our woes, we can have a great conversation about how blessed we are.